Do You Like Your Toddler?

In observing families for my dissertation, I visited two families who on first glance were similar. Both had two-and-a half-year-old boys, and both moms did many of the actions I had observed that set parents up for success: each mother successfully flowed together and apart with her son throughout the day, letting him come in and out of her tasks, which she made inviting and … [Read more...]

Demanding and Whiny 4-year-old

Dear Miss Faith, My son makes demands almost every time he talks. If I ask him to talk nice or say it nicely, he shouts out please. Then I say, please ask the whole thing in a nice voice. This gets him really upset and he proceeds to scream and cry.  I don’t give him what he wants until he says it nice but usually it’s when he’s so distraught and crying.  Ugh. Not a good … [Read more...]

Toddlers Swearing

Dear Miss Faith, My son is 2.5 and has started using abusive language (swearing). I have tried a lot of things…I have scolded him for this, I have tried to explain very calmly that these are wrong and bad words, but still no progress. He is in a play-group and his teacher has also complained about this. Please help.   Dear Mama, It can be both frustrating and … [Read more...]

Shyness Saying Hello

Dear Miss Faith, I am worried about how to deal with my 3.5 year old daughter's 'shyness'.  Whenever we see a new person or even someone she knows (eg bumping into a friend in the supermarket) she hides her face, makes a loud, whingey, grumpy noise, runs to hide and refuses to speak to them. It's hard to see her being so rude when the little girl I know is gregarious and … [Read more...]

Mean Preschool Girls

Dear Miss Faith, My daughter is now 3 1/2 and is having a hard time with simply being kind to those who love her the most. Her cousin/best buddy (who she sees on a daily basis) told her he loved her yesterday and she turned her head and walked away! She has started telling others that they can’t play with her, and she’s even mean to my parents and sister, who love her very … [Read more...]

Disrespectful Voices from Kids

Dear Miss Faith, My little girl is not quite 2 and a half years old and seems to have the grouchiness and rudeness of a moody teenager! The behavior that distresses me the most is her tone and the "mean" way in which she talks to people, especially me. I have tried rephrasing her unpleasant voice with a more pleasant voice (using prior advice from your blog), and she will … [Read more...]

Demanding Tone of Voice

Dear Miss Faith, My daughter is four years old. She never went through the terrible 2's and the 3's have been fun until now. Lately everything she says is in a demanding tone of voice. It has been a real struggle. I've been helping her speak in an acceptable tone of voice by rephrasing everything she says for her, as you've suggested on your blog, and this has been working … [Read more...]

Clingy & Possessive 2.5yo

Hi Faith! I have been thinking over the past 10 days that I am sure you could shed some light on what is happening with my 2 1/2 yo. son. I stay at home with him and there have been no changes to routine or the environment that I can detect. In the past my son has been friendly and charming when around others that live in the home (dad, older sister, and grandmother) but over … [Read more...]

Raise a Balanced Child

One of the things that we can do to help our children find their place in in the world is to help them to become well-balanced. A wonderful way to think of this is in terms of virtues. Do they talk too much and dominate the conversation? Being eloquent is a virtue, but it needs to be balanced out by the virtue of empathy, so they can learn to ask questions of others, and listen … [Read more...]

The Foundation of Social Interactions

The foundation of positive social interactions between children is to teach them to notice how other children are receiving their actions, and to listen to each others' requests. Noticing How Others React The first piece of this is to help youngsters start to notice both positive and negative responses to their actions. This is especially important when … [Read more...]

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