Archives for 2011

hitting smaller children

Hi Miss Faith, First, congratulations. I hope you and your partner had a great honeymoon. I didn't change my last name until I was 3 years into marriage (I didn't think I ever was going to change it, but had a change of heart). In any case, we're having challenges with my 2 1/2 year old being physically aggressive with her peers. Sometimes it's 'out of nowhere' … [Read more...]

Throwing Food

Dear Miss Faith, Welcome back and congratulations! I have a question for you - my son is 15 mo old and is the messiest eater you can imagine. For the most part I let him feed himself (he loves it) but eventually he starts throwing food all over the place. At that point I assume he is full and ready to get down and play, but often he'll keep eating. I don't want to take the … [Read more...]

Pre-Verbal Hitting

Hey Miss Faith, I was wondering if you could write more on hitting. Our pre-verbal 15-month-old is going through a rough phase this past month. He hits me and my husband in the face, throws things at us and the dog, pulls the cats by their tails and bops the goats on the nose. He's just being too rough with everyone. We've tried reminding him and showing him how to use "gentle … [Read more...]

Toddlers Grabbing

Dear Miss Faith, My son is 22 months and he always wants to pound on the computer keyboard or grab the mouse. My husband yells at him a lot for this, and the whole thing is driving me crazy, but I don’t know what to do. Any ideas you have would be welcome. Hi there, It’s not surprising that your little guy wants to bang on the keyboard and grab the mouse, that’s what he … [Read more...]

Luring Kids into Helping

This is a response that I wrote to a mom in my teleclass who was inspired to fold laundry with her four-year-old daughter, only to discover that her daughter wasn't interested. I believe that allowing children to help with housework can be wonderful for both of you, if it helps you and your child feel connected, if it allows them to develop competence, and enables them to feel … [Read more...]

When I’m Low Energy

Lavender Foot-Baths When I am in full health, and have gotten enough sleep, I LOVE my time with children. But when I don't get enough sleep, or I have a headache, or a cold, or medicine is making me groggy, the amount of energy it takes to care for children just seems beyond my capabilities. And yet there they are, as rambunctious as ever. Take Care of Miss … [Read more...]

Time to Play Outside!

Spring has truly sprung, and in many places, summer is in full swing (unless you're in the southern hemisphere, of course!). Let me take a minute to inspire you, or re-inspire you, to spend lots and lots of time outside with your children! The outdoors is stimulating in all the right ways for young kids. There are interesting things on every level, and everywhere you look there … [Read more...]

Foster Patience

 Our enjoyment of the children in our lives increases dramatically when we teach them how to be patient. Picture two sets of mothers talking together. One has a child who wants his mom to push him on the swing. She tells him that she's busy talking, and he whines and pulls on her for five minutes until she finally gives in. With the other set of mothers, a little boy wants his … [Read more...]

Toys

People have asked me about toys for toddlers, my ‘must have’ list. Mostly, I think that children do better with fewer toys than we would ever imagine. If you want a more comprehensive list, look in Kim John Payne’s book “Simplicity Parenting.” But here’s my list: -First, colored silks. These are so versatile and can be used for so many different things: as a cape or … [Read more...]

“Stop,” “Don’t,” and “No”

How and Why to Stop Saying “Stop,” “Don’t,” and “No.” Stop saying “Stop.” Why I avoid saying ‘stop’: Young children can’t stop. They don’t understand it yet; the only time they stop is when they’re sleeping. So I try to avoid saying “stop,” as that only tends to lead to frustration, both on my part and the children’s. So what to do when children are doing something that … [Read more...]

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