Posts about Discipline & Connecting


Why Explaining and Convincing Don’t Work with Young Kids

When we ask a child to do something, and they say no (or ignore us), the option of explaining why we're asking them to do it, and inviting discussion, is so attractive.  It's what most parenting books suggest, after all.  And research shows that explaining and discussing ARE useful tools for helping to get buy-in from children: when they're adolescents. In early childhood, … [Read more...]

My Toddler Runs Away!

Der Miss Faith, My son will be 2 next month and occasionally runs away from me.  I have a 6 month old also, so I’m usually holding the baby and I am so afraid this will become a habit.  When I call after him he does not stop or he’ll stop, grin, then run away again.  I know he doesn’t understand that it isn’t a game and I’m afraid chasing him reinforces the fun-factor for him … [Read more...]

My Toddler Hits!

Dear Miss Faith, I care for a little boy of 24 months.  His parents are having big relationship problems, and this sweet little boy has suddenly become very aggressive, hitting me and the other kids I care for many times each day.  I have tried telling him "Gentle hands!" and I help him touch gently, but it is not working at all.  I'm losing my patience and the other children … [Read more...]

Pouring In the Love

When your personal life is out of balance, it strains your body's immune system.  If you don't pay attention and make a change, you are likely to get sick.  When your relationship with your child gets out of balance, then the relationship's immune system gets strained.  Our bodies let us know when we're at risk for getting sick through excessive tiredness, aches and pains, or a … [Read more...]

What To Do When Your Kid Says NO!

When I ask the question, “Why do toddlers and preschooler say no to us?” in talks and workshops, the answers I get tend to run along these lines: • They’re differentiating themselves from us. • They’re testing boundaries. • They’re expressing their individuality. As sensible as these answers sound, I’d like to suggest an alternative perspective that has the ability to … [Read more...]

Why Turning Requests Into a Game Is Not “Tricking” Your Child

When I ask the question, “Why do toddlers and preschooler say no to us?” in talks and workshops, the answers I get tend to run along these lines: They’re differentiating themselves from us. They’re testing boundaries. They’re expressing their individuality. As sensible as these answers sound, I’d like to suggest an alternative perspective (or mindset) that can … [Read more...]

The Unexpected Truth About Happy Kids

After thirty-seven years of research in parent-child interactions from birth to age three, parenting researcher Burton L. White, Ph.D. wrote, I have now concluded that helping a child acquire high level of intelligence and language is surprisingly easy to do in most instances. On the other hand, helping a child to become socially effective and a pleasure to live with has … [Read more...]

Regular Tantrums

Does every little thing seem to spark a tantrum or meltdown? Read on for ideas of what message they may be sending.  It may be different than what you think! Just like the body’s immune system, a relationship’s immune system can get out of balance.  This can be from stress, lack of sleep, over-commitment, lack of attention, or other factors. Our bodies “tell” us when we’re … [Read more...]

Correcting Hitting Behavior

Dear Miss Faith, My son is three and he still struggles with hitting and rough touching.  Mostly not being aggressive, it's like he doesn't realize that he's hurting people.  When we correct him, he often sticks his tongue out and makes a spitting sound, or runs and hides.  Sometimes he will stop but other times he just can't seem to stop.  Should I end the visit or leave the … [Read more...]

Silly Defiance

Dear Miss Faith, My 3.5yo son used to be very helpful,  but lately when I ask him to do things, he deliberately "misunderstands."  For example, if I ask him to bring me my purse, he'll look around and bring something else.  If I try to correct him, he just laughs and brings me something else again.  What's going on? Dear Mama, My experience is that when kids do something … [Read more...]

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