Posts about Discipline & Connecting


Neediness

Dear Miss Faith, My daughter just turned three and mostly things are fine, but her neediness is draining on me. It feels a bit like there's a hole in her bucket, and I can't fill it up somehow. I'm not sure why there is so much whininess, such a fanatical emphasis on perfection, such passionate insistence on being carried around the kitchen or down the stairs, such a … [Read more...]

Tired of No’s

Dear Miss Faith, On your advice I've been using imagery when my 2yo daughter says no, and for the most part it's been very effective. But suddenly in the last week the no's have increased dramatically. No to drying off, no to handing me a bucket, no to me changing the sheets, no to eating, no to me playing with her, no to brushing her teeth, no to washing hands, etc, etc. … [Read more...]

Son Says, “I Don’t Love You, Mommy”

Dear Miss Faith, My son is 2.75 years old and recently shocked me by looking me in the eye and saying, "I no love you mama." Shocked. I said, "you don't love me? you don't like that I am changing your diaper right now, do you." He said, "I just no love you mama. I no love you." I was stuck. He normally tells me he loves me 20 times a day and is effusive. I feel hurt, of … [Read more...]

Disrespectful Voices from Kids

Dear Miss Faith, My little girl is not quite 2 and a half years old and seems to have the grouchiness and rudeness of a moody teenager! The behavior that distresses me the most is her tone and the "mean" way in which she talks to people, especially me. I have tried rephrasing her unpleasant voice with a more pleasant voice (using prior advice from your blog), and she will … [Read more...]

19 Month-Old Hurting Others

Dear Miss Faith, I was wondering what your philosophy is on when a child is "bad," like when they hit or do something that directly disobeys what you have told them to do. I know you use the phrase "it looks like you need some help" and then help him to follow through, but what about when they hurt someone else? My son is only 19 months so I know it's a bit different, but he … [Read more...]

Scratching and Pinching Older Sister

Dear Miss Faith, Lately my 2-yr-old daughter has really escalated her scratching and pinching of her big sister (age 5). My 5-yr-old recently broke her leg, so I have to carry her quite a bit and that is likely making the younger one jealous. Also, she is definitely struggling to use her words. But to my horror my older daughter's face looks like a cat attacked her! It’s … [Read more...]

Demanding Tone of Voice

Dear Miss Faith, My daughter is four years old. She never went through the terrible 2's and the 3's have been fun until now. Lately everything she says is in a demanding tone of voice. It has been a real struggle. I've been helping her speak in an acceptable tone of voice by rephrasing everything she says for her, as you've suggested on your blog, and this has been working … [Read more...]

Sensitive, Moody and Defiant

Dear Miss Faith, My son is 3 and a quarter, and he's very sensitive and moody, and often defiant. I correct him and tell him what I do want him to do, but I feel conflicted about punishing him because he often seems like he's not feeling good and then that leads to challenging behavior, and my heart is telling me to love him and connect no matter what. So i just pour love … [Read more...]

Engaging Cooperation

Dear Miss Faith, I've been caring for several 2-year-olds, and we've recently had a new 4-year-old boy join us. This 4yo is generally uncooperative, and the littler kids are starting to imitate him. When he gets into an activity he flows creatively with it, but transitions especially seem to be hard. His momma speaks quite angrily to him and I don't want to do that, but he … [Read more...]

Trying out “mean”

Dear Miss Faith, Recently my almost four year old son has become incredibly loud, demanding, and seems to be playing the part of the “mean” kid. He thinks it is funny to hit people, to spit on them, and to be rather bothersome in general, to both children and adults. I know that this is probably a normal phase in which a youngster “tries on different hats”, but I just … [Read more...]

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