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How To Avoid the Terrible Twos

Everywhere you look, the message about toddlers is that they are “terrible,” that their favorite word is NO, and that they’re using all of their energy to become independence from us.  However, this cultural paradigm has gotten it all wrong!  Toddlers and parents are not going from connection to independence.  Rather, they are transitioning from one-sided relationships (where … [Read more...]

Bath-Time Hair Washing

Dear Miss Faith, My 2yo son screams bloody murder every time I wash his hair.  I'm ever so slow and careful, but nothing seems to help.  He particularly hates it when water falls into his ears, which is almost impossible to avoid 100%.  It's gotten to the point where he starts crying as soon as I mention that it's time for a bath.    Any suggestions you have would be most … [Read more...]

Do You Like Your Toddler?

In observing families for my dissertation, I visited two families who on first glance were similar. Both had two-and-a half-year-old boys, and both moms did many of the actions I had observed that set parents up for success: each mother successfully flowed together and apart with her son throughout the day, letting him come in and out of her tasks, which she made inviting and … [Read more...]

Demanding and Whiny 4-year-old

Dear Miss Faith, My son makes demands almost every time he talks. If I ask him to talk nice or say it nicely, he shouts out please. Then I say, please ask the whole thing in a nice voice. This gets him really upset and he proceeds to scream and cry.  I don’t give him what he wants until he says it nice but usually it’s when he’s so distraught and crying.  Ugh. Not a good … [Read more...]

Do You Let Your Toddler Help?

A large body of research shows that people are healthier, happier and feel more fulfilled when they are able to contribute to the well-being of others: helping others reduces chances of dropping out of high school, contributes to job satisfaction, can be effective treatment for depression, reduces symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, and increases longevity, among other … [Read more...]

Sensitive, Perfectionist 5 Year Old

Dear Miss Faith, My daughter has a hard time dealing with frustration, and has a real perfectionist streak that has me worried.  For example, when she works with the art supplies I leave out in the living room, she often becomes very frustrated, crumpling her work and throwing it in the trash.  I try to make her feel better, but usually my advice has the opposite effect.  She … [Read more...]

Quick Tip: Bedtime

I like to think of strong bedtime routines as being like a Music Box: they start out brisk and engaging, and then they start getting slower, and slower...and slower...until that little ballerina comes to her inevitable halt.  Children are experts at giving extra turns to the music box key!  Younger toddlers might run away, hide behind the couch, get silly or upset; older … [Read more...]

Potty Train Your 3 Year Old Without Power Struggles

Is your three-year-old insisting on diapers?  Take the struggle out of potty training with this proven technique. Dear Miss Faith, Our son just turned three and we are having major issues with the potty.  He was almost potty trained at 18 months but we didn't "pull the trigger" because a new baby was on the way.  Now it is a struggle to get him to even sit on the potty.   I'm … [Read more...]

Dropping Naps

Dear Miss Faith, Recently, It's been a struggle to get my 2.5yo to nap during her usual time. She sometimes won't nap... but she does go to bed a lot earlier if she doesn't nap.  I guess my biggest question is -  Is it right for a 2.5 year old not to nap anymore.  Seems awfully early to me! Dear Mama, Your instincts are right-on. It is a fact that American children are … [Read more...]

Healthy Parent-Toddler Relationships

            With babies, the route to a secure bond between parent and baby is relatively clear: it’s the baby’s job to let his or her needs be known, and it’s the adult’s job to respond as quickly, lovingly, and effectively as possible. But what happens when those sweet babies become demanding toddlers? How does the nature of the parent-child bond shift, and how does it stay … [Read more...]

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