How To Avoid the Terrible Twos

Everywhere you look, the message about toddlers is that they are “terrible,” that their favorite word is NO, and that they’re using all of their energy to become independence from us.  However, this cultural paradigm has gotten it all wrong!  Toddlers and parents are not going from connection to independence.  Rather, they are transitioning from one-sided relationships (where … [Read more...]

Bath-Time Hair Washing

Dear Miss Faith, My 2yo son screams bloody murder every time I wash his hair.  I'm ever so slow and careful, but nothing seems to help.  He particularly hates it when water falls into his ears, which is almost impossible to avoid 100%.  It's gotten to the point where he starts crying as soon as I mention that it's time for a bath.    Any suggestions you have would be most … [Read more...]

My Toddler Runs Away!

Der Miss Faith, My son will be 2 next month and occasionally runs away from me.  I have a 6 month old also, so I’m usually holding the baby and I am so afraid this will become a habit.  When I call after him he does not stop or he’ll stop, grin, then run away again.  I know he doesn’t understand that it isn’t a game and I’m afraid chasing him reinforces the fun-factor for him … [Read more...]

Do You Let Your Toddler Help?

A large body of research shows that people are healthier, happier and feel more fulfilled when they are able to contribute to the well-being of others: helping others reduces chances of dropping out of high school, contributes to job satisfaction, can be effective treatment for depression, reduces symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, and increases longevity, among other … [Read more...]

My Toddler Hits!

Dear Miss Faith, I care for a little boy of 24 months.  His parents are having big relationship problems, and this sweet little boy has suddenly become very aggressive, hitting me and the other kids I care for many times each day.  I have tried telling him "Gentle hands!" and I help him touch gently, but it is not working at all.  I'm losing my patience and the other children … [Read more...]

Pouring In the Love

When your personal life is out of balance, it strains your body's immune system.  If you don't pay attention and make a change, you are likely to get sick.  When your relationship with your child gets out of balance, then the relationship's immune system gets strained.  Our bodies let us know when we're at risk for getting sick through excessive tiredness, aches and pains, or a … [Read more...]

Quick Tip: Throwing Sand

If your child is a little too exuberant in the sandbox, what to do?  Saying "Don't throw sand" seems to have little effect, as does the ubiquitous "Be careful!"  Instead, look at what's going on and try one of these things: Is your child a young toddler and just flinging sand around for the joy of it? Try saying, "You can put your sand into a bucket!"  If that has little … [Read more...]

19 Month Old Hits Dad!

Dear Miss Faith Recently our daughter has been hitting dad, blowing raspberries at him, and generally being disrespectful.  It seems totally random; she's often no upset and sometimes even laughs when she does it.  He reprimands her but it doesn't seem to make a difference, and it's really starting to upset my husband.  What do you think could be going on? Dear Mama, When … [Read more...]

Acting Up to Get Attention

Dear Miss Faith, My younger son is 19-months, and has recently become very curious about sticking food up his nose or deep into his ears. I'm concerned about this. The first few times he did it, my husband and I reacted with a sharp, "No!" Now I think he is continuing to do this for the attention, but it's not like I can ignore it because if he gets something lodged up there … [Read more...]

19 Month-Old Hurting Others

Dear Miss Faith, I was wondering what your philosophy is on when a child is "bad," like when they hit or do something that directly disobeys what you have told them to do. I know you use the phrase "it looks like you need some help" and then help him to follow through, but what about when they hurt someone else? My son is only 19 months so I know it's a bit different, but he … [Read more...]

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