How To Avoid the Terrible Twos

Everywhere you look, the message about toddlers is that they are “terrible,” that their favorite word is NO, and that they’re using all of their energy to become independence from us.  However, this cultural paradigm has gotten it all wrong!  Toddlers and parents are not going from connection to independence.  Rather, they are transitioning from one-sided relationships (where … [Read more...]

Bath-Time Hair Washing

Dear Miss Faith, My 2yo son screams bloody murder every time I wash his hair.  I'm ever so slow and careful, but nothing seems to help.  He particularly hates it when water falls into his ears, which is almost impossible to avoid 100%.  It's gotten to the point where he starts crying as soon as I mention that it's time for a bath.    Any suggestions you have would be most … [Read more...]

My Kid Talks So Loudly

Dear Miss Faith, My son is almost three and he's very verbal, be he talks SO LOUDLY, all the time.  I am very sensitive to noise and sometimes I feel like I can hardly stand to be around him.  Telling him to talk more quietly doesn't seem to have any effect. Dear Mama, I get migraines and am sensitive to noise then, too.  You have my sympathy!  I have some ideas for you.  It … [Read more...]

Why Explaining and Convincing Don’t Work with Young Kids

When we ask a child to do something, and they say no (or ignore us), the option of explaining why we're asking them to do it, and inviting discussion, is so attractive.  It's what most parenting books suggest, after all.  And research shows that explaining and discussing ARE useful tools for helping to get buy-in from children: when they're adolescents. In early childhood, … [Read more...]

My Toddler Runs Away!

Der Miss Faith, My son will be 2 next month and occasionally runs away from me.  I have a 6 month old also, so I’m usually holding the baby and I am so afraid this will become a habit.  When I call after him he does not stop or he’ll stop, grin, then run away again.  I know he doesn’t understand that it isn’t a game and I’m afraid chasing him reinforces the fun-factor for him … [Read more...]

Do You Let Your Toddler Help?

A large body of research shows that people are healthier, happier and feel more fulfilled when they are able to contribute to the well-being of others: helping others reduces chances of dropping out of high school, contributes to job satisfaction, can be effective treatment for depression, reduces symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, and increases longevity, among other … [Read more...]

My Toddler Hits!

Dear Miss Faith, I care for a little boy of 24 months.  His parents are having big relationship problems, and this sweet little boy has suddenly become very aggressive, hitting me and the other kids I care for many times each day.  I have tried telling him "Gentle hands!" and I help him touch gently, but it is not working at all.  I'm losing my patience and the other children … [Read more...]

Pouring In the Love

When your personal life is out of balance, it strains your body's immune system.  If you don't pay attention and make a change, you are likely to get sick.  When your relationship with your child gets out of balance, then the relationship's immune system gets strained.  Our bodies let us know when we're at risk for getting sick through excessive tiredness, aches and pains, or a … [Read more...]

Quick Tip: Throwing Sand

If your child is a little too exuberant in the sandbox, what to do?  Saying "Don't throw sand" seems to have little effect, as does the ubiquitous "Be careful!"  Instead, look at what's going on and try one of these things: Is your child a young toddler and just flinging sand around for the joy of it? Try saying, "You can put your sand into a bucket!"  If that has little … [Read more...]

Dropping Naps

Dear Miss Faith, Recently, It's been a struggle to get my 2.5yo to nap during her usual time. She sometimes won't nap... but she does go to bed a lot earlier if she doesn't nap.  I guess my biggest question is -  Is it right for a 2.5 year old not to nap anymore.  Seems awfully early to me! Dear Mama, Your instincts are right-on. It is a fact that American children are … [Read more...]

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