I've talked before about how it benefits children when we have clear expectations and firm boundaries, and how it is reassuring to children to know that we are in charge. I've talked about how having regular schedules and doing things the same way each time can help cut down on discipline issues and allow children to develop expertise. But even when we do all of these things, … [Read more...]
Acting Out
Dear Miss Faith, My three year old is having such a hard time lately, acting antagonistic towards his baby brothers, and no amount of helping him or punishing him is seeming to work. I've tried everything I can think of and I'm at a loss...It seems like he has lots of opportunities to get his big energy out...what do I do when nothing seems to work? … [Read more...]
Picky Eater and Play at Mealtimes
Dear Miss Faith, In the past month we drastically changed our family's diet, and my 3 year old is slow to warm up to the new food. I see some progress but he has a new trick that is getting old very fast. We sit together as a family at the table for mealtimes, there is a lot of playing, singing, talking, clowning around, and very little eating going on. Half an hour … [Read more...]
“Stop,” “Don’t,” and “No”
How and Why to Stop Saying “Stop,” “Don’t,” and “No.” Stop saying “Stop.” Why I avoid saying ‘stop’: Young children can’t stop. They don’t understand it yet; the only time they stop is when they’re sleeping. So I try to avoid saying “stop,” as that only tends to lead to frustration, both on my part and the children’s. So what to do when children are doing something that … [Read more...]
The Value of Saying "No"
One thing that dramatically affects how much we enjoy the company of a child is how they react when they ask for something and are told “no.” Being able to handle disappointment gracefully is a very advanced skill, and one that doesn't necessarily come easily or naturally. Nevertheless, having that skill is something that will really serve these little people as they go through … [Read more...]